‘Wine and Love Letter Ceremony'

“Like good wine, a great love will deepen and mature with age.”


Think of it as a time capsule of love and commitment. 


Each of you write words of love about your partner in the form of a letter, a poem or however you feel appropriate. 


The letters describe the good qualities you find in one another, the reasons you fell in love, and your reasons for choosing to marry.


Write the letter about a week before the wedding day. Find a quiet moment apart and don’t show it to your fiancé.  


Write how they make you feel, their smile, their touch. Perhaps write about your dreams for the future, even a few choices of children's names if you are planning a family. Travel wishes. Wishes for your home. What you truly appreciate about your partner, what they do that you are grateful for. What makes you smile or laugh when you are in their company. These letters are your private thoughts and feelings, only to be shared with your partner. 


Seal the letters in an envelope and place it in a sealed box along with a bottle of good wine and two glasses. 

This can be locked or well taped (depending on your choice of box) at the ceremony. 


It will be opened on an anniversary of your choice. Sometimes it is good to open the box if the marriage is going through a rough patch to help the couple remember why they fell in love with each other. 

Share the wine, read the letters and rekindle the flame. 


You can chose to repeat the process as often as you wish, having a good bottle of wine and some loving words to read every 5, 10 or 15 years past your wedding day.

By doing this, you are creating a history of your lives. What has passed and what you have wished for the future. 

It is a box that can be passed down to your children who may like the idea to continue the story you started.


Some words said by the celebrant on your wedding day:


By reading these love letters you will reflect upon the reasons you fell in love and chose to marry each other here today.


“Like good wine, and great love will deepen and mature with age.

As a part of today’s ceremony, BRIDE and GROOM have captured their thoughts leading up to this day in personal notes to each other.


An additional extra:

Also they have asked their parents (or best man / maid of honour or other loved ones) to compose notes as well, containing their thoughts and their most important piece of advice to the couple as they journey through life together.

These notes will now be sealed in this box to be opened and shared together with a bottle of wine on a future anniversary celebration.


If parents or best friends have been asked to add a note, I would request that they put their notes in first. 


“These messages and wine will be shared by BRIDE and GROOM on an their anniversary of their choosing, (usually about the 5th as this is the wood anniversary and the box is generally made of wood).


And I now ask that BRIDE and GROOM place their notes to each other with a bottle of wine they have selected to share on their 5th anniversary celebration.


On that joyous day …DATE….. they will get to reflect on the events and emotions they shared on this wonderful day.

They can also reminisce about all of the wonderful memories they will have made over the last 5 years and dream of all of those yet to come.


I will now seal the box.


If you prefer not to have it as part of the wedding or commitment ceremony, you may chose to arrange it yourselves prior to the wedding. 


If you have been married for a long time, but you like the idea, it is never too late to start. 

A renewal of vows ceremony or a commitment ceremony may also incorporate this lovely sentiment with a beautiful bottle of your favourite wine. 


If you chose to do this as part of a same-sex commitment ceremony, simply replace BRIDE & GROOM with GROOM & GROOM or BRIDE & BRIDE.


You can purchase these boxes off the internet - try ebay  or etsy:



Reference: Eric Schwartz and Day of Dreams wedding celebrant information.